Uncomfortable Realizations

So, I have come to a very hard realization. I may have learned the hard way what it is like to not be the Man God created me to be. You see, there are times where not doing anything wrong may be the worst thing you can do.
I'm gonna let you ponder that for a second.
Ok, here's what I mean. For you Bible thumpers think about Revelation 3:16.
This past weekend I didn't necessarily do anything completely wrong. I found out after the fact that there were some boundaries that I crossed with someone that I like very much. I did not know these were her boundaries. Yet, we crossed them. You see, I did the worst thing I could have done.
Many of you, especially the men, will be thinking and saying, "You weren't wrong if you crossed boundaries that you weren't informed of. Unless it is against the Bible." It wasn't against the Bible's teachings. (The reason I say men is because men, in general, are more likely to look at the black and white and not see grey in between.)
So where was I wrong, you ask? I was wrong because I failed her because I was not a Man of God this weekend. Nor have I been in my relationships past. She asked me a question this weekend that took 3 days to hit me. She asked what my boundaries were. I told her the truth. I don't have them. Except for no sex. Other than that I have never set solid boundaries in my relationships with women.
That is why not doing anything wrong may be the worst thing you can do. I was indifferent and did not set boundaries in my life to protect the women that God allows to enter it. My lack of boundaries not only did not protect her, it also did not honor her as a daughter of God.
How can I look in the mirror and also tell her that I want her to feel like a queen, when I can't even show her the honor she deserves?
This has been very hard for me to take. Especially considering the fact that I am the jerk that hasn't been man enough to follow God properly, and that I probably blew a relationship with an amazing woman.
If you are the woman I am talking about...I am sorry...

Jonny